Be Your Awesome Self!

Humans are naturally social creatures. That doesn’t mean that everyone is outgoing. It means that we all crave friendship and other relationships. Some people like being the center of attention, and others enjoy being close to just a few people. Regardless of how many people we prefer to surround ourselves with, there’s one thing we don’t like to be… alone. At least, not for too long. Sometimes, because we don’t want to be alone, we hide parts of ourselves so that others might like us more but that hiding hurts our “self-confidence.” Self-confidence refers to how much we like and believe in ourselves, no matter what others say. Let’s think and talk about what self-confidence is and how we can grow it in ourselves.

Elementary Lesson


  1. Watch the video titled “Wellbeing for Children-Confidence & Self Esteem.”

** Note:  This video is 6:29 minutes long. If this is too long for your student group, it can be stopped at 5:19 with similar results.

  1. Answer the following questions (discussion or in written format):
  • What is confidence? 
  • What is self-esteem? 
  • What happens when we compare ourselves to others? 
  • What are you good at? 
  • What do you want to get better at? 
  • How can we build our confidence? 
  • Who can help us build our confidence? 
  1. Invite/ Encourage students to share their answers

Secondary Lesson


  1. Watch the video - “Every Teenager NEEDS to hear this” - and imagine the speaker is talking to you.
  1. After watching and listening to the video, answer the following questions: 
  • What was shared that you appreciated hearing? 
  • Has anyone in your life ever said any of these things to you? 
  • Were you surprised by anything that was stated in the video? 
  • Who in your life would you like to hear these positive statements from? 
  • What else would you like to hear from a caring adult in your life? 
  • If you were the speaker, talking to a younger version of yourself, what advice would you give? 
  • Do you have a younger sibling or other people in your life that you would like to have this kind of conversation with? What would you like to say?
  • How does this video relate to self-confidence?
  1. Conduct a circle for students to have an open dialogue around these questions.

*Note:  In circle activities, students should always be allowed to ‘pass’ if they are uncomfortable answering a question, but they should continue to be acknowledged.

  • See handout for further instructions on conducting a circle conversation.
  1. Wrap up the discussion by having students identify what helps them build their self-confidence when they’re feeling down or situations that allow them to feel more self-confident.

Follow-up Activity

Ask all students to sit or stand in a circle, with one student in the middle. Ask for 2-3 other students to identify one positive attribute about the student in the middle. Have all students take turns being the student in the middle. Encourage students to highlight positive qualities that cannot be seen (e.g., friendly or good at math) and visible skills like good at soccer or nice smile. Allow yourself (teacher) to be in the middle too – we all need some positive feedback from time to time!

Teacher Tips

Teaching can feel like a thankless profession at times. Students act out, parents are not always appreciative, and we might feel that we don’t have the support of our colleagues or administrators. Sometimes we feel that we’re not reaching our students or providing them with the best of ourselves. Then there are other days that remind us why we became educators – days when a student shares their appreciation for us or a colleague confides in the importance of our presence there. Those rewarding days or memories help get us through the more difficult times. Let’s remind ourselves of our own awesomeness! Start a journal of your own rewarding memories or impactful quotes or feedback. If you have a hard time starting or just need more to add, see this link for 10 Daily Affirmations for Teachers.